100 Ways To Make Sure Your Man Will Never Leave You
René Delain – Relationship Coach
# 6 – Pamper Not Spoil
‘Don’t Tell Me You Love Me, Show Me’
The ‘rat race’ of today’s society can seem to take so much energy and there is the need for physical and mental healing. Recognising this need in your man and attending to this will help create that “Oh my gosh” feeling in him. Spas, facials, manicures and massages which traditionally are targeted at women may not be considered by men. They may also dismiss them due to the perceived feminine aspects, but as famous people like Beckham and other famous personalities in the media promote these treatments as a masculine norm, e.g. sports massages and male grooming it is becoming more accepted as an excellent boost to their wellbeing.
Say it with Flowers
Now there is no need to go a buy a big bouquet of flowers as a single stem will do. Having a stem presented in front of a rare cooked breakfast or tickets to a game attached to a bold coloured arrangement will feed that happiness gene, yes he will possibly look at you surprised, but if you tell him that its to show your appreciation of him then this token will set a positive precedence for the rest of the day. Though if you really feel your man is really not a flowers person consider an interesting plant of significance, e.g money tree or bonsai.
Mom’s The Word
A lot of aspects can influence the expectations a man has of his woman, e.g. culture, environment or status, and because of this a lot of women feel that to keep their man they must follow this expectation, e.g carrying on from where his mother left off by ironing all his clothes and cooking all his meals etc. This may be a fair exchange if you have both agreed in your relationship that he is the breadwinner and you stay home. But a better approach would be to start as you mean to go on and negotiate changes as your relationship develops so that you don’t find you are contributing more to the partnership and will want to pamper him willingly.
Pampered Pouch
Regular overindulgence of your partner can bring about a big set of problems. Though society accepts at times that a young child or a pet can sometimes be spoilt, your man is neither your pet nor child so should be treated as an appropriate adult. Some women overindulge their man believing they will always be positively rewarded by an item or an emotional feeling and don’t recognise that spoiling their man can lead to not achieving the desired outcome every time, thus disappointment. If this is the case with you, think about what else is missing in your life that can provide that feeling you crave and pursue it. Don’t give another person a chance to say “Well you made him that way”. By creating this balance your relationship will have a more satisfactory outcome in the long run.
It’s Worth It
In a relationship there is the tendency to take each other for granted as we get used to each other. In relation to receiving pampering from a man, women usually see this as a normal part of the relationship and rarely feel the need to reciprocate. Turn the tables on him by occasionally indulging his physical and emotional senses and you should find you are increasing his connection to you.
Also next time you’re looking for deals on discount websites for yourself, think “would my man like this?” or if you want to score extra brownie points, why not whip out the massage oils and ice cream and work your magic. He will love it. Just don’t tell any mates about the session.
Happy pampering.
René Delain, Relationship Coach has created a series of articles titled ‘100 Ways To Make Sure Your Man Will Never Leave You’. For coaching details visit her page: www.renedelain.com
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