100 Ways To Make Sure Your Man
Will Never Leave You
René Delain – Relationship Coach
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So what makes you think you can change
a habit of a lifetime?
Annoying traits a partner has can contribute to major
negative emotions and cause great stress to you. Though this is an unconscious action, it can,
when pointed out cause great embarrassment and defensiveness. It can also lead your partner to discount all
the positives about the relationship.
Ignore habits
Only you can assess what annoying or infuriating habit you
can deal with. If it’s very extreme then
maybe this relationship isn’t for you.
Though something like leaving the toilet seat up or bad eating habits
may be perceived as a simple matter, point out in a delicate way that its not nice
to be on the receiving end, because if you nag and annoy him about it he may
deliberately do it to infuriate you. Also,
ignoring his irritating habits, except giving occasional praise about him
refraining from the particular habit may eventually entice him to make the effort
to stop. Don’t make it your mission to
get him to conform as he has to want to change for his own reason.
Ignore him
Always being available will mean that you may be taken for
granted and generally not fully appreciated by your man. Yes you want to spend
time with him but always being available at the end of the phone or meeting him
when he decides he wants you does not give him the chance to continue to desire
you. I am not saying stop doing all the things you did whilst courting. But if
you feel he isn’t paying you appropriate attention as he may be engrossed in
his own interests or appear irritated by your presence then get out of his
radar and focus on yourself. Also if you
continue to pursue your own interests (even if you are in the same space) and
not include him all the time he is likely to wonder why and also think of ways
to grab your attention.
Ignore criticism
Though you may not experience adoration everyday being
criticised by your partner can make you feel terrible. The first thing to
remember is that you may not be the cause.
As you are the closest person to him unfortunately you are the one
receiving the backlash from other issues that may be troubling him. This may be his learned behaviour of dealing
with i.e. stress about finances or work and any other insecurity about areas of
his life. The problem is him and if you can highlight to
him that he offended you and ask if he wishes to discuss what’s really
troubling him, he may be more conscious of unintentionally criticising you in
the future.
Ignore and progress
Focussing on the negatives of the relationship will breed
resentment in you and you won’t be able to appreciate the positives that have
developed your good relationship.
Concentrate on being loving and supportive regardless of his manners but
don’t be a doormat.
His habits have been with him for a long time and so can be
hard to break. Remember they are not a
reflection on you so don’t internalise them and make them an issue. Where possible. Ignore it.
Rene Delain, Relationship Coach has created
a serious of articles titled ‘100 Ways To Make Sure Your Man Will Never Leave
You’.
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Or for coaching email renedelain@gmail.com.
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