100 Ways To Make Sure Your Man Will Never Leave You
René Delain – Relationship Coach
# 7 – Is Your Relationship His Relationship?
Don’t get involved with someone who is not in the same relationship 'mode' as you.
It is no use getting involved with someone who has ‘commitment-phobia’ if you want to get married, settle down and have kids. He might change, but don’t depend on it girl. Start off with the right guy.
Men vs Love
Men fall in love just as much as women; problem is that they are influenced differently to women. You may have a romantic notion in your head about the happy future with your man but he may be focussed and have anxieties regarding his next career goal. Most men are encouraged to go out and ‘sow their oats’ whilst striving to become financially stable so that they can command respect from their social circle when they do settle. Has he achieved his goals and is he content. Know what point of his life he is at in order to decide whether to put the effort in.
Lust vs Love
Women’s hormones are different to men’s when it comes to sex. Just because you have just given him the best sex he has ever had doesn’t mean you have your man hooked. He may crave your body but you haven’t necessarily connected with his emotions. Detach yourself from the sexual antics and see if you can enjoy each others company without the sex
Present vs Future
Do not be exclusive with him if he isn’t willing to offer you the commitment. Make him work. Nowadays, people meet someone and then dismiss all other possible dates until they break-up. In the past women and men used to date, write letters, kept their options open until the right proposal came along. Go out and date many people and if your current beau questions why, tell him your mindset of wanting to settle down with someone who wants the same relationship as you. If he really wants to keep you, it will give him a reality check and he will make the effort to keep you.
Happy dating
