100 Ways To Make Sure Your Man
Will Never Leave You
René Delain – Relationship Coach
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One way to attract and be with a
great man, in order to build a satisfying relationship is to learn the art of
communication. Being able to relate to
and talk with your man in a way that will enable him to feel fulfilled and
understood, will create success in the long run for both of you. It will also allow you to express your desires
and needs comfortably. This in turn, empowers
both of you to tailor the way you wish the relationship to progress.
Listen
to him
When he is
talking to you, give him your full attention in order to make sure you
understand what he is actually saying. If
you are unable to give him your full attention at that time tell him so, but
also offer a more convenient time to discuss the matter whether it is in 2
minutes or 2 days. When you do listen,
but don’t understand his slang/language/code, speak up and request that he
rephrase his statement. He will
appreciate that you are informing him that you really are paying attention to
him
Talk to him
Most women
have a way of communicating in code language and often expect a man to
understand what they are saying or even when they don’t speak, to
‘mindread’. Be as clear and brief in
your statements as you can be and confidently specify your intention or ask for
your needs to be met. Quite often men
will see a woman’s communication as a request to solve a problem, as their mind
style is very goal orientated. Check
with him that he understood your meaning, i.e. what you were saying, as opposed
to you repeating the same words over and over again which is likely to irritate
him.
Body
language
Without
saying a word your expression and body language can say a thousands words, and this
is an area where most men and women differ.
Just because he didn’t acknowledge you with a nod or a smile or verbal
cue doesn’t mean he didn’t hear you.
Body language for men is very ‘black and white’ and can be interpreted
as ‘emotionless’, however with a little effort you can soon learn to read
whether he is happy, sad, angry, or just want to be left alone. Recognise the cues and don’t overanalyse
meaning because it isn’t wise to try and compare him to how your female
companions express themselves. He is a man.
Negotiate
Being Understood
It can be so
frustrating for couples who miscommunicate what the other one is verbalising or
expressing. Generally to females a
statement made may have many totally different meanings, whereas whatever your
man says is more often than not, exactly what he means.
If it is an
important matter that needs to be discussed, prepare yourself, relax and be
calm without distractions around. When you are giving him your attention refrain
from giving orders and telling him what to do as it is likely to have a
negative effect, diminishing his masculinity.
Encourage him to speak with no interruptions from yourself.
It can take a lot of practice to master good communication but the
more you practice the better you get.
Happy Talking.
Next article arriving in a fortnight
is ‘#2 – Play Together, Be Together’
Rene Delain, Relationship Coach has created
a serious of articles titled ‘100 Ways To Make Sure Your Man Will Never Leave
You’. Published fortnightly. You can find her on Facebook: Relationship
Coach - Rene Delain https://www.facebook.com/datingandrelationshipminefield
and Twitter: @ReneDelain https://twitter.com/#!/ReneDelain.
